Amy Pond has no characteristics > She doesn’t despair, panic, and/or have complete breakdowns when in terrible situations.
(Sarcasm mode off)
In comparison to - for example - Rose, who always tried to do something (rip open the TARDIS, jump across dimensions) Amy will give up and hand her agency over to someone else, usually the Doctor (but sometimes Rory) when faced with terror or tragedy. Remember when Rory tells Amy, “I know you’ll never give up on me”? He was wrong, because she did give up…she stopped doing the CPR, she started crying over his body.
Amy Pond isn’t strong in the face of terrible, terrible things. She isn’t strong in the face of death. She isn’t strong in the face of real fear. She definitely, definitely isn’t strong in the face of losing a loved one. Instead she cries, she pleads, she freezes, she goes catatonic, she gives up, she can’t do it. She’s nearly lost Rory a couple of times that way. And her deciding, in Angels Take Manhattan, to go back in time for Rory- this is, I think, the only time where she’s lost him and she’s worked through her fear and panic and decided what she’s going to do. I think Series Five Amy would have reacted very differently to the scenario presented in the graveyard- I think she would have done what the Doctor wanted, gone back to the TARDIS, and never been happy again for a very, very long time. Luckily, she found her agency when she needed it most.
Anyway, the point is, Amy isn’t a strong female character. Not in that way. Not at all. And I love her for it.